Know the Heart

There have been times in my life where many people have thought me to be a flirty, stuck-up snob. When in reality I had no idea I was being flirty or that I came off as stuck-up.

Throughout my life I have always been a tom-boy, who liked to hang with guys more than girls. Girls stood around talking about boys and girly stuff while the guys played ball and didn't care about getting muddy. That sounded like a better thing to me so I hung out with the guys swinging my hair around and showing off to, to show that I wasn't no girly girl, I was a tom-boy, who was just as tough as they were. To the girls watching I looked like I was flirting even my best-friend of today thought I was flirting back then. Looking back now I can see what they saw. At the time, I was very innocent minded, being homeschooled, I was sheltered from perversion and the ways of your typical boys and girls.

As you can imagine girls didn't like me much, except for a few homeschooled tom-boys like myself. The other girls pretty much avoided me causing me to be very confused, until years later when my best-friend informed me I was a flirt. I'm a natural flirt and had no idea I was one. I hate and like that. I like it because I like seeing Josh blush, but I hate it since I could give a guy the wrong idea. Least now I know what not to do around guys. Pretty much don't look at them, smile, or talk to them too much, unless they know your not interested. However, there are those other guys who don't care if you have a boyfriend or are not interested they just won't give up! Yes...I've had one of those, it was awful... He was very hard to avoid at a camp with only four girls and less that 50 people.

I know the saying, "Don't judge a book by its cover" is cliche, but it is still a mistake people are guilty of. No matter how much the lesson is told it seems to never be learned we still judge people based upon what we know about them and how they present themselves and how they dress. To truly get to know a person you have to walk through fire and grass with them to truly know what lies beneath the cover.

Sadly, we may find the person we thought they were was just a coverup of their true self. The person who they turned out to be was not a sweet, fun-loving person, but a lying, backstabbing, contemptible individual. I've experienced this before, it is pretty much unavoidable, unless you don't ever speak to people again, but that's the cowards way out, everyone gets hurt. There are decent and bad people out there is a fifty-fifty chance you are going to meet one or the other.

When we meet one of those people. We can be there friend and try to change them for the better, but you can't force them to change it is their choice to change. So, if they leave, let them go. If you have a chance to get closure and ask them why they left you. Take that chance.

The separation from these people is going to hurt for a while and may not ever heal. People say all wounds heal with time...but they don't. They ease up and then stop hurting but then something reminds you of them and it hurts again sometimes it comes back hurting more than before...because their are things you miss about them...maybe the way they hugged, their sense of humor, or some other reason.

Letting people like this go will be better for you in the end. Yes, their is pain because of the things you miss and yes, it hurts because they betrayed/left you. But! They no longer weigh you down with their troubles and now that you know who they truly are, there are no chances of them getting more from you than you already gave them. You are free from the bonds of that false friendship, free to find true friends that will last and be there by your side.

#Lifelessons #storytime